If you’ve ever found yourself overwhelmed by the pace of life—juggling responsibilities, caring for others, and trying to keep it all together—you’re not alone. I’ve been there, too. In the middle of burnout, I stumbled upon a simple but powerful idea: we can shape our surroundings to support how we want to feel. In this post, I’m sharing a personal story of what it looked like to create space—physically, emotionally, and mentally—and how even small, intentional changes can make a meaningful difference.

As a therapist, I’ve seen how perfectionism can both inspire excellence and quietly cause distress. While it can drive persistence and high standards, it often becomes harmful when rooted in anxiety, control, or past trauma—especially in uncertain times. It may show up differently across genders and can lead to self-criticism and strained relationships. With reflection and self-compassion, it’s possible to ease these pressures and move toward a more balanced, fulfilling life.

The text shares lessons from a therapist’s early career experiences, emphasizing the importance of maintaining a sense of urgency and observation. The therapist recalls advice to stay alert, which became a guiding principle through challenging situations— teaching them the value of urgency, observation, and the support of supportive colleagues, leading to professional independence.

The Weight of Holding Space: A Reflective Offering For Those Who Support Others…

The therapeutic journey is as much about the clinician’s growth as it is the client’s healing. In bearing witness to others’ inner worlds, we’re reminded that every projection, every reaction, is part of a deeper human story—one that calls us to respond not with ego, but with presence, humility, and care.

A personal reflection on burnout, boundaries, and the beauty of saying no.